Nadia and Liam

Mary asked me to be honest with this, so here goes: when we first came to see Mary, we were ready to separate.  I don’t think I had ever felt more disconnected with Liam.  We fought most of the time, and honestly, we hurt each other quite a bit.  I know I definitely felt hurt.  I honestly didn’t think we could make it.  I cannot describe in words what that feeling is like.

When Liam and I think back to where we were, we’re thankful for two main things.  First, that we went and saw someone instead of just giving up.  And not just someone, but someone who understood what was happening to us.  Mary told us she works primarily with couples and it was obvious she had experience.  Second, we could tell from the very beginning that she wanted us to make it.  It was just a few subtle comments she made in our first meeting that seemed hopeful – at least they gave us hope.  That turned out to be really important for us.  Throughout our time with Mary she really worked hard with us to make progress, to help us understand what was happening in our relationship and also what was happening to us individually.  She helped empower us to heal some old wounds that I never even realized were causing so much pain.  And she got us working right from the beginning to communicate better, which seems like a simple thing, but for a couple that feels so disconnected, it was a big deal for us.

Today we have better self-esteem which helps us to have a better connection with each other.  We have a stronger bond that we both feel.  We are incredibly grateful to Mary – I wish I could rave more freely about her.  What I’ll say is the greatest thing about her: she will work hard for your relationship in a way that helps you feel hope.  You won’t waste your time with her – she gets you moving right from the get-go in a very safe and supportive way.

Karen and Peter

I know that we’re not the only couple to experience an affair.  I know it happens to people more frequently than you would think.  But it had never happened to any of my friends or family, so when I found out about it, I was completely devastated.  I would never blame anyone for being done with their cheating partner, but too often I think people believe that’s their only choice.  We don’t hear about couples who survive affairs, and it does happen.  I’m living proof that you can survive an affair and still be married to the same guy.

I wanted a female counselor, which is one of the reasons I found Mary.  I’m really glad it was Mary.  She certainly gave me time and space to talk about what it was like to be cheated on, how I felt, how angry I was, and how hurt I was.  But the bigger thing she did was help me (and us) understand the affair as a symptom of bigger problems we didn’t know how to fix.  It was my choice to stay and work on it.  It was also his choice to stay and work on things.  Now we are working on understanding what was unhealthy about our relationship and we’re working on making it better.  It takes some time.  It also takes working on yourself.  I wish we could have done this years ago because I definitely think it might have prevented all this.

What I’ve learned is after an affair, you cannot stay the same in your relationship.  You cannot stay the same in life.  You have to decide and then change.  Whatever you decide, don’t carry the hurt and pain without talking to someone.  Don’t do that to yourself.  If you decide to work through it, give Mary a call.  You and your husband will feel comfortable with her.  We’re really glad we did.

Cindy and Brian

My husband and I have communicated more in the past 30 days than we have in the past 5 years.  I can’t tell you how invaluable Glen’s coaching and counsel have been for our marriage.  What he’s given us is more than just an education.  He started by actively helping us identify what’s working in our relationship.  This was a new approach for us, but it has given us the confidence we need to begin making changes. We’re very excited to build on this!

Donovan and Melissa

When my wife and I were searching for a counselor to help our marriage, we identified several we might want to work with. I sent each of them about 8 questions regarding their approach and method and how they worked with our particular dynamic. Only Glen responded. Not only did he respond, but his response was almost as detailed as my initial email was. It was close to a full page! Our thought was this: if someone cared enough to write this type of response, he would care about our relationship just as much. That’s what we wanted and that’s what we’ve found.